As much as I try to seem emotionally above it all, I really can be susceptible to my feelings. What is it about relationships, romantic or platonic, that cause us to willingly subject ourselves to the hurt and pain, that often comes with them? Sure there are benefits to relationships, good things, wonderful moments where you heart is all ablaze with the warmth of companionship, but many times those are few, and more frequently the trials are many. This question has come up a lot over the course of my life, after many emotional investments, where I am left feeling mentally bankrupt, with nothing left to give. And you always tell yourself that you are done, you will never let another person beyond the walls into your life, yet you always do again. As an unbeliever I never had an answer, but now being in Christ, I think I have come to terms with one that may suffice. Why do we subject ourselves to the hurt and pain that often accompanies caring about others? Because Christ subjected Himself to the hurt and pain that accompanied loving us. If you truly care about a person, genuinely love people, your love should not cease because they chose not to do the same in return. Yes, it hurts, and for certain there will be pain, but to quote an episode of Doctor Who “One may tolerate a world of demons for the sake of an angel.” The pleasure of loving people, is worth the pain of doing so. We are not only responsible to love people, we are obligated to do so. Christ loved us as unlovable as what we are, so that we could love other people, as unlovable as they can be. What other alternative is there, to become a hermit, keep to yourself, and build a plethora of walls so people will stay away? I have tried that, and I never want to do so again. Alfred Lord Tennyson was not wrong “Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.” and he truly was a man who loved despite what he had lost. When we withhold caring for people, loving them, it is not our love we withhold, it is Christ’s. The love we have is not ours it is His, so we must us it the want He wants us to, not how we see fit. If He could subject Himself to pain as a result of loving us, we surely can do so for the sake of loving others. The moments of pain, as many as they feel, that often come with loving people, are a small price to pay for the moments of joy, as few as they may be.
Right now I am hurt, but Christ heals, and I have to remember, that a life of pain is worth it, because as a believer, I will have an eternity without it. Caring about people sucks, it really does, but if He gives us the ability to do it when it is easy, He will give us the strength to see it through even if it is hard.