As Good As It Gets
“You could do better.” This little bit of advice is among one of the many cliches within the world of dating. At some point or another, most of us have either given, taken, or been the subject of this little bit of wisdom. What I want to suggest is that as Christians this idea of doing better is not only unbiblical, it is wrong. Maybe there is some validity to doing better by the worlds standard, values given to people based on physical attraction, financial position, and social status, but the last I checked, believers are supposed to follow what God says is important, not what the world does. If two believers, are in Christ, how can anybody do any better than that? Should a believer have more value because of sex appeal, money, and popularity, or should Christ not be enough? When you tell someone they can do better, when you believe that you can do better, you are saying that Christ is not good enough, this person needs something more, something else. Can you get any better than Christ in another human being? Yes, I understand desiring qualities in a person such as same vision for ministry, or life goals, but even those who agree with yours, does not make them better, just different. And if this judgment that you or someone else can do better is based off their flaws, sorry to be blunt but, look in a mirror. Everybody has their flaws, but is that not the beauty of Christ, we may still deal with sin, but in Him, that sin is dealt with. Maybe there is something to be said that most mouths I have heard this come from, have not been people of character to begin with.
Christ could have had the attitude of being better regarding us. What if he looked at all of mankind and said “I could do better”, where the heck would we be then? He was the only person in all of history who could have justifiably said that too, yet He did not. If we wanted to be fair, none of us are better than another, but we really do not deserve anybody in the first place. Fortunately life is not fair, in both advantages and disadvantages. Christ lives in us, meaning, if He did not hold the attitude that He could do better than us, neither should we. Galatians 3:28 says “There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.” What it comes down to is, do we view people in a Christ like way, finding their appeal, our attraction, to their hearts, or do we view them like the world, basing our value of them off the flesh. Some of the most beautiful people I have met by God’s standards, many would say of them “you could do better” by the worlds standards. If we say we are people who look at the heart, people who value depth, and character, why do we not act like it? Being in Christ means understanding that all believers are on the same level, knowing not one of us is better than the other, because in Him, that is as good as it gets. Christ frees us from shallow social standards that separate, and has leveled the playing field so that anyone in Him is as good as one can possibly get. The next time you think you are better than someone, or want to bestow that advice onto another, remember, Christ did not do so to you, and He is in you, so maybe you should follow what He would do.